life is a pretty word
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life is a pretty word

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life is a pretty word

exploring grace and gratitude following loss

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The mission of life is a pretty word is to inspire you to mindfully honor your heart and soul.

life is a pretty word

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To the remembering
To the remembering
Rituals Make Us Human
Rituals Make Us Human
Letters from Stanford
Letters from Stanford
The Blueberry Catastrophe
The Blueberry Catastrophe
The Day the Music Stopped
The Day the Music Stopped
I taste the loneliness
I taste the loneliness
Being a dork won't kill you
Being a dork won't kill you
The Blue Dish Christmas
The Blue Dish Christmas
The Day the Music Started
The Day the Music Started
What to Say
What to Say
Angels, Dragonflies, and Fried Egg Sandwiches
Angels, Dragonflies, and Fried Egg Sandwiches
Bow Down Old Sally
Bow Down Old Sally
Death is in My House
Death is in My House
A Eulogy of Voices
A Eulogy of Voices
Grieving a loved one as you age
Grieving a loved one as you age

Current Posts

Recent Posts
To the remembering
To the remembering

This month is it. March. The angel-versary, death-versary or fill-in-the-blank-versary. There is no celebrating.  Only and ever, the remembering and forgetting again. 

Dayspring
Dayspring

Quiet mornings are a gift, especially when one lives near a metropolis. What time of day speaks to you?

Brighter than ever
Brighter than ever

Loving a deceased person has its challenges. And its blessings. 

December Sundown
December Sundown

This time of year so many of us reflect to gain clarity. Something about endings and beginnings that sparks this human behavior. May your new year be clear and bright.

Rituals Make Us Human
Rituals Make Us Human

There is power in the group.
There is power in the solo.
There is power in the yes. 

Letters from Stanford
Letters from Stanford

They say it is never too late to apologize. Will forgiveness, understanding, and acceptance make a difference? We can hope. 

The Blueberry Catastrophe
The Blueberry Catastrophe

Whether the forgetting is circumstantial, a lack of mindfulness, or time induced, I don’t like it one bit. Forgetting sucks. 

For Daddy
For Daddy

Evil-eyed. Soft-hearted. Absent. Spare-the-rod. Disciplinarian. Mediator. Coach. Present. Dads have as many parenting styles and roles as there are men on Earth. For the most part, they do the best they can.

Unfinishedness
Unfinishedness

Did you know unfinishedness is an actual word? Listening to a recent NPR radio broadcast, I thought the speaker made up the word to make their point. 

A Virtual Manifest-Storm
A Virtual Manifest-Storm

What happens when we connect with others near or far, living or dead? Can the connection with others be the hack we've longed for to manifest our dreams?

Missing in Action
Missing in Action

“In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion."
— Albert Camus in “The Myth of Sisyphus and Other Essays"

The Day the Music Stopped
The Day the Music Stopped

Standing at her graveside, the elder told the story, in native Anishinaabe tongue, of how the world began. We didn’t know a single word yet understood we were in that place where death and birth meet. 

Tenderly, softly, gently
Tenderly, softly, gently

My voice went missing the first day of March. The best I can do is a whisper as I wonder why any of my words matter. 

My Book of Dreams
My Book of Dreams

Shortly after my daughter was born, I was so taken in by the miracle of life, I wrote a lengthy composition on our shared birth experience. Writing about her birth and rereading it periodically, I could relive the joy and the possibilities of all that lay ahead.

there is a tree beyond my window
there is a tree beyond my window

The woman's eye in the tree, watching me write, gives new meaning to "live oak". Seemed like an opportunity to write a poem. Enjoy!

Work Your Way Backwards
Work Your Way Backwards

Work your way backwards to worry less. Can revisiting our original dreams show us the way forward?

I taste the loneliness
I taste the loneliness

How did she know? Might we each get a glimpse of the inevitable before it happens? Would you want to know?

Courageous Captain
Courageous Captain

We get to choose the words and behaviors we use to cope when devastation finds us. In this piece, using the found poem poetic form, words from an article on a life well lived are remastered to convey the starkness many people experience.

Writing--physical therapy for my soul
Writing--physical therapy for my soul

My message is not to convince you everything will eventually be pretty again. Writing is physical therapy for my soul. 

Being a dork won't kill you
Being a dork won't kill you

Being a dork won't kill your humanness but being an asshole will.

Wedding Band
Wedding Band

The loss of innocence and trust hurt worse than the black eye. You can walk away. 

Magical is the Word
Magical is the Word

Words have power. How can a single word become a guiding force for living with intention? My word for 2016 is "magical". What's yours? 

The Gift of the Solstice
The Gift of the Solstice

The sun's cycles remind us that what we've lost returns. 

Sweet 2016
Sweet 2016

"When was the last time you did something for the first time?" --Sally Edwards
Ready, set, go and write your Sweet 2016 goals with intention. May you experience your most mindful and best year ever.

That moment when the cake falls over
That moment when the cake falls over

You know how it feels. One minute you're enjoying a beautiful wedge of chocolate layer cake with that special someone and the next, it's gone. 

The Blue Dish Christmas
The Blue Dish Christmas

That particular Christmas is the last time our table felt full. The memories are still bittersweet.

The Dad We Know As Mighty Moe
The Dad We Know As Mighty Moe

Sheldon Cooper describes his spot as a "single point of consistency in an ever-changing world", so when I "saw" my dad seated at the next table, the memories came calling.

Gratitude for the Old Soul
Gratitude for the Old Soul

We all know at least one old soul. Why do we love them so? What might we learn from them? We delight in their wisdom and long for more. 

 

 

Paris Love
Paris Love

Paris, city of light, darkened, for love.

Black and Blue
Black and Blue

Connecting color to our thoughts can bring a memory, an emotion or imagery to life. This poem is written from the power of color and how we might imagine where our loved ones go when they’ve left us here.

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